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Ask a question crazycherry 4Posts Monday June 13, 2016Registration date August 27, 2016 Last seen - Last answered on Jun 27, 2016 at 09:07 AM by lazylizzie
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everybody. I think, I’m in a real trouble and I need somebody to assist me. Firstly, some words about my headache: I have several close relatives who suffer from a split mind syndrome. Actually, they are my grandpa and my father. At present, I am 32 and I don’t have any symptoms of this disease. I got married two years ago, and now I want to become a mother. Of course, my husband and I decided to plan my pregnancy. I have already consulted my gynecologist and she said that I don’t have any problems with my fertility. I have also visited a geneticist. He told us that there is a certain probability that my future child will get this illness. Actually, he explained that a split mind syndrome isn’t inherited, the baby gets only an inclination for this illness. Lots of things will depend on his life situation and his social network.
At present, I am having two variants. The first variant is to give birth to my own child and surround him with love and care. The second one is to pass through a procedure of egg donation and get a child with a healthy heredity.
What do you think about my situation? Maybe, someone has the same experience or some ideas about it.
P.S. Frankly speaking, I like the second variant more because it will stop inheriting this illness completely.
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I think you shouldn’t give up the idea of giving a birth to your child by yourself. Though there is a certain probability of your child to get this illness, you can do quite a lot of things in this situation. Firstly, try to give your future child as much love as you can. Surround him with positive emotions. If your family life is quite and happy, your child won’t get any stresses. You can also teach him how to confront his life problems correctly. All depends on you and your husband’s behavior.
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I don’t agree with you, because inclination does mean a lot. The illness may not develop in an early childhood. In many cases, the beginning of the illness coincides with teens or a middle age period. You won’t be able to surround a teenager or a 30 year old person with your constant care. Egg donation is a nice way out! Though an oocyte won’t be yours, it will posses healthy genes. Your child will be healthy and free from any probabilities to fall ill with a split mind syndrome.
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I quite agree with you. I have a close friend you have experienced the same problem. When she was planning her first pregnancy, her doctor warned her about a great probability of conceiving a child with the Down’s syndrome (her mother’s parents had two children with this genetic disease). They advised her to try an egg donation program in order to give a birth to a healthy child. She decided not to follow the doctors’ advice and conceive a child by herself. Her first pregnancy ended with a miscarriage on the fifth week. In two years she made one more attempt and, unfortunately, the first screening revealed that her child was with the down’s syndrome. It was a great sorrow for her and her husband. They decided not to do an abortion. Now they have a daughter of 3 years old. She is really a small angel: so cute and natural. My friend and her husband love her greatly and they do all positive things to help their daughter to develop. But she might have been totally healthy, if my friend had followed her doctor’s advice!
denise08 3Posts Friday June 17, 2016Registration date June 17, 2016 Last seen - Jun 17, 2016 at 02:57 PM
Hi can you help me pleasse

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I agree with the last two messages because if you have a bad heredity, unfortunately, you can’t do anything with it. The illness will be obligatory inherited by someone in the future. It can be either your children, grandchildren or even great-grand children. You have to make a difficult choice in this situation. But before deciding something, try to evaluate all pros and cons of both variants. I have a similar problem with you. The geneticist, I had consulted, warned me about the allogene of hemophilia in my genetic material. I had some distant relatives who suffered from it, and I didn’t even think that my future child might inherit such disease. My first reaction wasn’t a reasonable one. I shouted down on the doctor and slammed the door without saying ‘good-bye’ to him. Now I am really ashamed of having done it. It was my mother who told me a lot of details about our family issues. She even told me about her fears that I would inherit such disease. The only thing that I can’t understand is why she didn’t warn me about it earlier. We had a long talk with my husband and at last we chose the procedure of egg donation. Fortunately, everything was done really perfect. I got pregnant after the first attempt and gave birth to two nice boys. They are genetically healthy and resemble me and my husband very much.
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I also agree with you. I decided to choose egg donation, because I don’t want my child to inherit any possible genetic disease. Though I know I a couple where a mentally retarded woman has given birth to totally healthy children, I don’t want to take any risks. I live in Great Britain. The procedure of egg donation is quite legal here, but it’s not anonymous. In addition, I can’t sign up a contract with the potential donor. I don’t want to have any connections with that woman. It will be nice if she is somewhere from abroad and we will never meet. Maybe, there is someone here who can help me. I need some information about the countries where egg donation is legal and anonymous. I also want to ask everybody who has passed through this procedure to share your experience with me.
P.S. Though there is a lot of information about egg donation in the internet, I always prefer to get data from the first source)))))
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Hi, crazycherry! My sister has passed egg donation procedure in Croatia as she lives there with her husband. The egg donation procedure was conducted on an altruistic basis. It means that she didn’t pay anything to the donor, just hospital expanses. She told me that the information about the donor was backroom. They’ve got only some general facts about this woman, but when their daughter is 18, she will be able to get to know all facts about her biological parents. The procedure was conducted with the help of a fresh donor cycle. My sister got pregnant after the first attempt and the daughter resembles her in some way.
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Hi, crazycherry! I understand that it’s quite difficult to say ‘yes’ to the egg donation procedure, but in our cases it should be done. Why? Because our heredity isn’t perfect. Giving birth to our own children means ‘gifting’ our children with terrible illnesses. When my friends ask me why I have decided not to give birth to my own children, I always tell them that I have my own children. My lovely sons are completely mine, because they call me ‘mum’ and kiss me before going to bed. So think about these things, and, I hope, it will be easier for you to make a decision.
I have told you about my life issues in the previous post and now I ’m going to answer to your questions. The procedure of egg donation is available in many countries of the world. For instance, you can apply to the reproductive clinics in the USA, Denmark, Russia, Czech Republic, Poland and etc. Each country has their own peculiarities and specifications. You can easily find all answers in the internet. For instance, some countries allow egg donation only on altruistic basis. In other countries, you can easily sign up a contract with the clinic and just buy this medical service.
Merrymarry has written in her last message, that her sister’s daughter will be able to get to know who her biological mother is. Frankly speaking, I’m a little bit scared about this fact, because I want to be the only mother to my sons, so I have chosen the country where I can buy the oocytes and the information about the procedure and egg donor will never be disclosed to anybody.
I passed my egg donation in Ukraine. The clinic is called BioTechCom. It’s situated in the capital city. As I’m a healthy woman, I got pregnant after the first attempt. The pregnancy and delivery lasted without any complications.
I consulted this clinic because of three reasons. The first is total anonymity and confidentiality. The second is reasonable prices. And the third is I liked highly qualified specialists.
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Hi, girls! Lazylizzie, I’m really glad for you and for your family! Maybe, I will write something painful for you, that’s why I beg your pardon in advance. It’s a great sorrow that you and crazzycherry have faced such troubles with your heredity, but I’m totally against egg donation. For me, it’s better to adopt a newborn baby than conceive with the help of someone’s oocyte. In fact, you are giving a birth to a child who isn’t related to you. Though your son or your daughter will smile to you and call you ‘mum’, you will always see another woman in her or him.
P.S. Girls, I beg your pardon one more time. I don’t want to offend anyone. If I have done this, then, please, forgive me. It’s my own point of view and nothing more.
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Beautykitty, I respect you and your point of view even if I completely disagree with you. I have also thought about adopting a child. But you see, a healthy heredity is a real must for me. I want to be sure that my baby will be conceived with the help of a healthy oocyte. In addition, my husband wants to have his own children. He doesn’t want to adopt anyone at present. We talked with him about it quite a lot of times, and, finally, we have chosen egg donation.
Lazylizzie, you have written that your program was conducted in Ukraine. I have searched some information about this country earlier and I have just even visited BioTechcom’s official website. I liked their offers and prices, but this country has so many problems. It even has a war conflict.
Frankly speaking, I’m a little bit scared of going there.
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Crazycherry, the clinic is situated in Kyiv. It’s the capital of Ukraine and as far as I know it’s a peaceful place at the moment. I was passing through my program in winter 2014 when Kiev was in riots. The political events didn’t influence on the clinic’s work at all. Only the staff were discussing some political issues.
If you have read the clinic’s offers attentively, you will have to come to Ukraine only twice. The first visit implies signing up the contract. The second one embryo transfer. If everything is OK, then you will only visit your gynecologist and wait for your delivery.
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Lazylizzie, thanks for your comments. All in all, I liked the clinic’s website, but before contacting them, I’d like to ask you some more questions. They offer three packages connected with egg donation. ‘Economy’ package is the cheapest and implies only one attempt. The ’Double’ package guarantees two attempts. And there is also a ‘Guaranteed Success’package. As far as I have understood, it’s the most expensive package and guarantees an unlimited number of attempts with a refund in case of negative result. Which one have you taken? Were all the things done as it’s described in the contract?
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As I’m a healthy woman and I don’t have any problems with my health, I decided to take the ’Economy’ package. In case you have some doubts concerning your fertility, then I advise you to take the ‘Double’ package in order not to worry.
My experience of dealing with BioTechCom is mostly positive, except several things. When we came to Ukraine, a pleasant woman who worked as an interpreter in the clinic met us at the airport. Her English was fluent, so we didn’t face any language barrier. We didn’t have to find an accommodation, as the clinic provided us with it. In addition, they served the food for us. The next day we went to the clinic. There we met with the clinic manger and our potential doctor in charge. They gave us all information about the procedure, commented on our medical test results and possibility to conceive. One more thing, before coming to Ukraine your husband and you will have to pass through a number of medical tests and at the clinic you will be consulted by the physician. And, of course, you will have to send the information about the appropriate donor (desirable description) and father’s blood group before coming to Ukraine.
When all the discussions were finished, we signed up the contract and they proposed us to look at the 3D photos of our potential egg donors. There were three women and one of them resembled me very much. This was the end of our first visit.
The next visit lasted for nearly 10 days as it included my husband’s sperm pick, fertilization of donor eggs and their transfer into my uterine.
The time of the second visit will be determined by your menstrual circle. You will have to take birth control pills in order to synchronize it with the donors’.
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