I can't explain the support and love that my wife has showed me

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Hello,
sometimes it’s hard for us to admit that we might be the one failing our spouses. I myself gave my wife a hard time when we were trying to conceive. When she wanted us to visit the clinic for tests i was so scared that it will mean I am half of a man. but she’s really been my rock, she introduced me to such forums and i got to see how much women go through when ttc. i knew i had to man up and go have the tests. the results were not that much encouraging but at least i know now and we are working on it.

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its quite encouraging when couples support each other. sorry for the result , i wouldn't mind if you tell us more of what your results are and the steps you are taking??
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hi naomi, thank you. i have a sperm production problem. a low sperm count. i have been told to avoid smoking and drinking.we will see how it will go
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its good when couples work out things and support each other. it makes the journey a little bit easier.
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hey ddermody, I really appreciate the fact that you are acknowledging what women go through when ttc. And it's really great to see that you have the support of your wife. That is just what you need in such times. Keep supporting each other and your journey will be a smooth one.
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yeah the only way to get through this is each other and of course help from above to keep the faith. for those who haven't been through this do not know how how hard the journey can get.
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Though I am easily upset on hearing or seeing a man giving hard time to his wife when she is going through such a tough phase, I am glad on reading this post. Atleast, you decided to man up and go through the tests and are ready to work on it after knowing the results.
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Why do men think that they would be half a man if there's a problem with them? Why does it have to be about your manhood when a woman is struggling to be a mother and is ready to try everything she can?
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Well, atleast now you are supporting her. It's a positive sign and thank you. It really made my day to see someone actually manning up to accept that he did give his wife a hard time. Not many do this. I hope you understand the pains a woman goes through while ttc and I am glad for you and your wife, that you have each other through whatever comes your way.
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I am not blaming anyone here. It's just that I have come across many such cases, where the man just doesn't want to go to the consultant and it is always about his manhood. I am just trying to understand where does this train thought come from in men.
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Yes, even I am interested in hearing from you. What have you been advised by your specialist. Have you been to a fertility specialist?
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Hello brother. I hope you are having a fantastic day.. May god bless you and your wife. She seems to be very caring of you.

I get what you mean. Everybody is afraid at first. Being half a man is a great way to explain it. It is the most accurate way to explain it I think. I know many infertile males. Most of them I have met on the clinic that I went to do my IVF. All of them had the same words... I feel half a man they said. BUt don;t worry too much! There isn't a single man who is more man to her than you! I am sure she loves you and you should do the same.

Cheers to you!
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thanks so much guys for the encouraging remarks . things are really looking up for me and i have hope. the habits that i picked up have really been my downfall but its a journey that am not alone in. my wife is such a fighter, she keeps us going am now off smoking and drinking and the medications that i was on seem to be working. i have another check up this weekend. fingers crossed all will be well now. cheers guys
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am happy for you. stopping an addiction will have been the best step you have taken. as much you are on medications i think its also a good idea that you improve on your diet. start eating plenty of fruits ,veggies and whole grains. you are a bigger man than the rest cause you have spoken out and asked for advise. xoxo
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Initially, we all are scared to visit the doctor. Mainly, because we dont want to hear anything bad or too serious. However, these tests are for our own betterment. Now that you have got your tests done at least you know where the problem is. This will then help the doctors in deciding what procedure to opt for. Just make sure the clinic you are visiting is operating at a high success rate. The doctors if are experienced then things do go well. Good luck to you.
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I am glad that your wife helped you out. Often times males who are not suffering from the same situation are not really able to understand. Therefore, they have to talk through it. This is at least what I had to do. It was not something that easy. However, my DH is very supportive and told me would be there through thick and thin. I am really excited about my journey. So far everything is going well. I believe it is all because of his determination and support. At first, things were not going right for us. We had tried so many methods but nothing was working out. We had to in between take a break and search for a good doctor. That really helped me out. I am hoping for the best now. Good luck to you.
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Yes, you are right. A woman goes through many stages of different issues regarding TTC. But only fewer men can understand that. Every man should care for her wife the problem she faces while ttc and everything related to it. My husband is also very good in all this. He is always with my side. I am infertile but he is always there to back me up. He knew that I was infertile yet he married me. He supports me everywhere.
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I am glad that you realize that your wife is such a wonderful person. It is really important to listen and accept. Just make sure to visit a good doctor. They will really help you out. Deciding upon the right clinic is the most important thing. However, most of the times we don't realize that. Sending baby dust your way.