Well, can anyone help me with any experiences?

MereenAlan 1 Posts Saturday October 28, 2017Registration date October 28, 2017 Last seen - Oct 28, 2017 at 10:46 AM - Latest reply:  nur_atikson
- Jun 18, 2018 at 09:13 AM
We just decided to go for surrogacy. Have you guys had any experience? Things are not good for me. It is painful when you that you are about to die when you have just started a new life. My DH is the most amazing person I have ever met. I just need to be sure of how much time am I left with. It is nonhodgkins lymphoma. It is painful. The battle is tough both emotionally and physically. It is just the beginning. I know it is going to get tougher and doctors have given me no hope. I have not told my parents about the cancer is so fatal. I have prepared my last wish though. I want to give my husband a daughter. Leave a family behind. She will be my shadow... It is a breaking point for me guys. I am crying even now. Please don't be judgemental about this.
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zinyddypi 1 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 11:59 AM
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Hey. Why do you sound so dejected? I can see that you are in a tough spot, but there is still hope. I have heard about many people who have recovered. They are often called miracle recoveries. I, on the other hand, call them the power of faith. Nothing is impossible. Do consider other treatment options. Go to other doctors if necessary. If allopathy doesn't work then go for homeopathy or whatever. Just don't give up. As far as surrogacy is concerned I believe it is a good idea. Although I hope it won't be your legacy like you said. Instead, I hope that you get to live a long and happy life with your child. Good luck on both accounts.
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xapufodaga 1 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 12:03 PM
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Hello, there my dear. I can understand how tough it must be for you. Dealing with such a disease. On top of that, feeling like you are running out of time. Despite that, it is important to not lose hope. Are you sure there isn't something you can do? Medicine has progressed so much. There are so many alternates to any treatment. Do try them all. Keep trying till you succeed. As far as surrogacy is concerned it is a good idea. Although I am not so sure about the timing of it. I think it is far more important to care for yourself at the moment. Planning for a child might prove to be too taxing for your health.
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ememehiff 1 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 01:22 PM
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Hello, Meeran Alan, I can understand your feelings. I have also recovered from the cancer last year. It was really a tough and long journey. Things were not easy to cope up with. I was as depressed as you are. Just like you, I was very hopeless. However, today I have recovered from cancer. Please don’t depress yourself by thinking that your life is about to end. Just stay courageous and you will be perfectly fine very soon. You have such a great husband. I think you need to stay strong for him. I have my two-year-old through surrogacy procedure. It was a satisfactory experience. It seems to be tough but actually, it is the simple procedure. I would suggest you go for it. I wish you best of luck. Please stop crying and stay strong.
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heginnexa 1 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 01:29 PM
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Hi Maureen Alen, I am glad to know that your husband is an amazing man. This world needs more human beings like your husband. I don’t understand that why men leave their wives because they are infertile. They cannot be infertile by their own choice. They should understand this. Anyways, coming to the point, I will suggest you, go for surrogacy. I was also suffering from cancer but now I have recovered. My ovaries were removed as they were badly affected by cancer. My uterus was also affected so I had to go for surrogacy. There was no other way out. My family was against of adoption. However, surrogacy was the only choice. Please don’t lose hope and don’t think negative. You can have your baby through surrogacy. Talk to your husband about it. I am sure he will look forward to this procedure.
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igopyrri 2 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 02:44 PM
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Oh, sweetie! I just read your post and it makes me weep. I know what you're really going with. You're a FIGHTER! I really love your strongness and willing power. I wish you will get better and you don't have to this all for your family. I really wish you to have a family life for you. because you deserve far better than this but practically while concerning all the circumstances you should really take this decision. A daughter will really be a nice reason for your husband to live on without you. She can really take care of him after you. Well, honey. You should make your husband's mind for it. I think you guys should really go for it. My sister also wanted to have a child and she was an infertile person. They have a son by this now. They really are living happily now with their son. Now, they are a complete family. I think you must try it. :)))
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averikora 2 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 03:09 PM
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Oh dear! You're so loving; I really wish you deserve far better than this in life. Well, besides your practicality. I really hope you to have a new life. I hope things will change in your life. But, yes coming back to the point. I think you really need this right now. Yes! If you're going to leave a daughter it will really be nice for your husband to live along while having your thoughts and memories. I think its really a nice idea to have surrogacy because conceiving for you is not less than a big risk. I think you should probably go for it without lagging time. I myself went to Ukraine for surrogacy, after three years of conceiving. I didn't want to waste my years for it. I finally am happy with my son now; its just the matter of one way or another.. :)
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xollappafit 2 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 03:12 PM
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Hey Maureen. Oh dear! What a tragedy are you dealing with. It’s all about our fate. Not everyone has the privilege to have a proper happy life with their families. Some women like you and the infertile women who have different reasons for not having a baby and not living a happy and long life. The same is in your case also. Things have turned really bad for you but you can do nothing in such a condition and just hope for the best. Even hoping for good in your situation is really very hard but you don’t have any other choice. I hope you get cure from this fatal disease of yours. I am also happy for you as you are lucky to have such a loving and supporting husband. Not every woman has such a husband. I know how important it is for you to have a baby at the moment as doctors have declared no hope for your life and you don’t know how much time you have. I know you cannot get pregnant because of cancer and less time that you have. But there is a perfect way to satisfy yourself that even something happens to you your husband will become a father of a daughter. That can be done by surrogacy. It is a very easy process. You just need to visit the clinic with your documents and tests and the clinic will start the procedure straight away. Don’t waste your time in making any decisions. You know better about your condition. You can specify the gender for your baby and the clinic will work according to that. So just chill and ask your husband about it as soon as possible. Stay blessed.
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uffeneby 2 Posts Wednesday November 1, 2017Registration date November 1, 2017 Last seen - Nov 1, 2017 at 03:18 PM
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Hello honey! I can see that things have been really harsh for you and I hope that they don’t remain the same for the rest of your life. You are fighting with this cancer for your life and it is very difficult for you to come out of this. As you told the opinion of doctors, it is clear that you will not be able to survive cancer. I am not discouraging you and I don’t want to hurt you. I just want you to accept the facts and move on. Because if you will keep on cursing yourself and your fate, you will not be able to have a baby daughter. As you are also not able to get pregnant like many other women on this forum, I have a suggestion for you. I hope you might have heard about surrogacy as it is a very easy and popular way of having a baby if you are not capable to do so. I need you to ask your husband’s opinion about it because he will have to give his sperms and you will have to give your eggs so that the embryo could be planted in the surrogate mother. Surrogacy gives the choice of choosing the gender of your child so to have a baby daughter is not a problem for you through surrogacy. It is a bit difficult point to make a decision but you will have to make it soon before your health declines more. Your husband loves you and supports you in every situation as per your post, so I believe that he will definitely listen to you and will go for surrogacy with you. Tell me about your decision as soon as possible so I can guide you about a clinic that offers best surrogacy services.
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Alessia.Violet 137 Posts Sunday January 21, 2018Registration date October 13, 2018 Last seen - Jun 1, 2018 at 03:26 PM
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Hey, I am so sorry to hear about your condition. However, don't be that negative about life. I am sure you will recover! There are so many people now who are easily able to fight leukemia and I am sure so will you. Just be positive about life and things will start looking better. I think opting for surrogacy is a great option. Your child will be like your bundle of joy. Just make sure you are properly researched about everything. The process is illegal in many countries so ensure whichever country you are deciding to visit for the process is allowing it to happen legally. Other than this there is a lot of paperwork involved so when I opted for a clinic I ensured they were experienced with it. I felt so much more relaxed because they were professionals and everything was being done systematically. I hope the process is a success for you. Just don't give up on life till yet. You have to live for your family and family always comes first. Do keep us posted!
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aliceblake 128 Posts Sunday May 20, 2018Registration date August 18, 2018 Last seen - Jun 1, 2018 at 03:48 PM
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Hello darling. I feel so sorry to hear about what you're going through. I understand the kind of ain you are in. And on top of it all, you feel like you are running out of time. Don't lose hope. It will be very hard to remain positive. But try. I am here for you. You cant give up this battle so easily. You have to experience many things. You have to become a mother. Feel the beauty of having a child. Be strong. My prayers are with you.
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stacyben 88 Posts Tuesday March 20, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Jun 5, 2018 at 11:22 AM
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I am so happy for you. May you live long. I am feeling so sad. It is a great wish. I hope this will come true. I have a baby through surrogacy. I have a daughter. I chose the gender. We got her from a clinic in Europe. The surrogate was provided by the clinic. I have a baby now. I have no more worries now. I wish you will be a mom soon.
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emily001 73 Posts Wednesday April 11, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Jun 5, 2018 at 12:01 PM
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I am so glad for you. May you live long. I am feeling so pitiful. It is an incredible wish. I trust this will work out. I have a child through surrogacy. I have a boy. But you can pick the gender of your choice. We got him from a clinic in Europe. The surrogate was given by the center. I have an infant now. I have no more stresses now. I wish you will be a mother soon.
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Alana90 82 Posts Monday March 26, 2018Registration date July 30, 2018 Last seen - Jun 7, 2018 at 03:08 PM
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Have you ever heard of miracles? Yes, that does exist. I have seen women's recovering from the worst stage. And I would pray that you recover from it too. I am really sorry for what you are going through. I know that must be tough for you to have all such conditions. This is a really tough stage. Just don't lose hope. Miracles happen every day. And that day might be yours.
And you could go for the surrogacy procedure. As it is good enough to have children. Soon you would be blessed with the beautiful daughter I am damn sure. I wish you all the happiness and recovery. May you be able to see your daughter grow up to beautiful women.
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pheobe412 178 Posts Monday January 22, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Jun 7, 2018 at 05:00 PM
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Surrogacy could be a great experience for you. You might think that it's difficult or what. There is no such thing like this. It's just very much good. There are certain difficulties that you should face on this journey. First of all, it's pretty expensive. Other than that it could be difficult for you to chose the surrogate mother that is going to carry your baby. After that phase just keep good care of her. There is no other problem for you after that. You'll enjoy this.
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Hey there! I feel so sorry for what you had gone through. I can understand how much it is difficult to face all this. You are such a brave lady. Well, don't give up. Everything will be alright. I hope you will get well soon. Well, surrogacy is really a good option to have children. I am also a mother of surrogate children. I pray for you. Stay blessed
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pheobe412 178 Posts Monday January 22, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Jun 10, 2018 at 01:32 AM
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No, it's not a time to be judgemental. Well, why are you worried my friend? It's not going to be an issue for you. Don't think bad. Everything will be alright for you. You just don't have to think about it. Be positive and stay calm. It'll help you.
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BarbaraHicks 33 Posts Monday March 5, 2018Registration date June 15, 2018 Last seen - Jun 12, 2018 at 04:29 AM
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Yes, I would love to share my experience. Surrogacy has completely changed my life. Before surrogacy, I was his woman who cannot have her own babies. But just because of surrogacy we have our own baby. I have struggled a lot to have babies all my life. We tried IUIs, IVFs here from the US. But nothing worked for us. Everything was a huge failure. But then we decided to go for surrogacy.
It is an amazing process to go with. All that matters is that you will have our own baby after it. I know one always wants to carry her one baby. But sometimes it is not possible. But it does not mean that you cannot have babies. I wish you luck and success. Stay strong.
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Jassiedeen01 35 Posts Tuesday June 12, 2018Registration date June 15, 2018 Last seen - Jun 12, 2018 at 03:03 PM
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Hello there. How are you doing? Oh, surrogacy is a wonderful option to go with. I know how much my life has changed after surrogacy. I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. The word 'unexplained' had bothered me a lot. I didn't know what should we do now. I was so much devastated and shattered. I am glad that we decided to go surrogacy to Ukraine.
That was indeed the best decision of our lives. We flew there. We had our tests done. We came to know that surrogacy is the best option. So we decided o give it a shot. And now we have our baby girl. I hope it will go amazingly for you too. Stay strong and positive. More power to you.
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Hannahdrake 63 Posts Wednesday April 11, 2018Registration date August 29, 2018 Last seen - Jun 15, 2018 at 12:17 PM
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Oh My God. I am so sorry to hear this. I don't know what to say. It must be so painful for you. First cancer. Then this surrogacy journey. We are all here to support you. Look up in Europe. They have great success stories for surrogacy. Just make sure you avoid this clinic Adonis in Ukraine. I wouldn't want you to suffer more. I have read some reviews about them. They, delay the process a lot. I wouldn't want that for you. Since you are already short on time. I just hope it gets cured. You get to live. You get to see your baby. You get to enjoy motherhood.
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MereenAlan how are you. it seems that you are newer to this forum. Here many women had gone through this process. They are now living a happy life. Surrogacy is not a rocket science. At first it looks weird and strange. But when you get to know of its terms things began to sort out. Don’t need to be worried.
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