Is surrogacy safe?

ReemaSavans 1 Posts Monday October 30, 2017Registration date October 30, 2017 Last seen - Oct 30, 2017 at 05:12 PM - Latest reply:  Vennie990
- Aug 27, 2018 at 11:58 AM
Is surrogacy safe? How do the clinics keep their surrogate mothers? Are they facilitated? Do we meet them?
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zaltana 3 Posts Friday November 3, 2017Registration date November 7, 2017 Last seen - Nov 3, 2017 at 12:26 PM
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Hi, there dear. I am happy to see that you have decided to take fate into your own hands. Surrogacy really is all it promises to be. Yes, it is a completely safe option. Of course, like any other medical procedure, things can go wrong. Despite that, it is relatively safe. As long as you opt for a well-reputed clinic, you should be okay. Try not to go for the shady looking clinics just to save a few bucks. The risks are generally higher there. As far as the surrogate mothers are concerned, every clinic operates differently. Some allow you to meet the SM while others don’t. Similarly, with some clinics, you have the option of selecting the SM yourself. This option is not available in all clinics though. The clinic I know about helps you find the SM. You don’t get to meet her until after the 12th week though.
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Pradeepta 4 Posts Friday November 3, 2017Registration date January 20, 2018 Last seen - Nov 3, 2017 at 01:21 PM
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Hello Reema Savans. Surrogacy is a great option for infertile couples. If this is your story too then you have made the right choice. Or if you want to help someone in this situation then recommending surrogacy is a good idea. The procedure is quite safe. There are the usual risks involved of course. Risks that can be associated with just about any pregnancy. Either natural or assisted. Apart from that, there is hardly any cause for concern. To make the process go by smoother, opt for a clinic with a name in the field. Make sure you check out the legalities associated with surrogacy in that area. The surrogate mothers are often chosen by the clinic. In some clinics, you can tell them that you want to work with an SM of your own choice. I would generally advise against that though. Clinics like these usually work with SMs often. So, they know what makes an SM a perfect fit. Therefore, they can make a better choice for you.
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GiaFoster 5 Posts Friday November 3, 2017Registration date January 20, 2018 Last seen - Nov 3, 2017 at 03:40 PM
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Hey. If you are an infertile woman who has just heard about surrogacy, I can understand what you must be feeling. On paper, surrogacy looks amazing. It seems to be just the solution you are looking for to end your fight against infertility. Well, I have good news for you. Surrogacy doesn’t just look good on paper. In fact, it is just as good in practice too. It has changed the lives of many couples longing for a child. Now, it goes without saying that the procedure isn’t fool-proof. Regardless, it is as close as it can get. Even natural pregnancies aren’t fool-proof. There are so many things that can go wrong there too. Like with any other medical procedure, the competency of the doctor plays a huge role. Same is the case with surrogacy. If the doctors know what they are doing, then the chances of complications are relatively low. I hope this answers your question.
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GemmaMorse 1 Posts Friday November 3, 2017Registration date November 3, 2017 Last seen - Nov 3, 2017 at 04:29 PM
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Hi there. I think that I can answer your question better my sharing my experience. I am an infertile woman. I had tried many treatments and medications etc. Unfortunately, none of them bore fruit. I was dejected and had almost given up home. That’s when I found out about surrogacy. It was everything I had wished for. I contacted the clinic a friend recommended. They sent me all the details via email. All seemed satisfactory so my husband and I booked an appointment and headed over to the clinic. After the preliminary tests etc, we chose the egg donor. This was done using the database of donors the clinic provided us. After this, the clinic chose a surrogate mother. We could not meet her until the 12th week. After this, we remained in constant contact with her. The clinic made sure she was well cared for. The clinic even provided accommodation and health care for her.
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Tammera 3 Posts Saturday November 4, 2017Registration date November 8, 2017 Last seen - Nov 4, 2017 at 10:28 AM
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Yes! Surrogacy is completely safe, and it has almost 100% positive results. And some of the clinics do provide with multiple attempts as part of their package. It is as safe as normal pregnancy is for a mother. There is no particular risk factor associated with surrogacy. Moreover, surrogates mothers are chosen with the utmost care they need to be healthy and fit, and they are facilitated throughout pregnancy. Either it is the medical facility or emergency treatments everything is tended by the clinic, and they also receive a paid compensation as per the contract. At the time of labor also clinical staff and expert doctors are there to attend the patient. There is no need to give a second thought it's completely safe for the Genetic mother and surrogate mother both.
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JolynSkinner 1 Posts Saturday November 4, 2017Registration date November 4, 2017 Last seen - Nov 4, 2017 at 11:46 AM
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It's glad to see such informative posts on this forum either it's a question or an answer. A healthy discussion leads to a solution to many problems and people are getting more aware of surrogacy. Yes, surrogacy is completely safe. The whole process is done with utmost care and under professional doctors who know their work very well. On the other hand, surrogate mothers are fully facilitated. Either it's medical help or consultation and support throughout. It's a whole nine-month process and, they are supported and taken care of from end to end.
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CristopherBriseno 3 Posts Saturday November 4, 2017Registration date November 8, 2017 Last seen - Nov 4, 2017 at 04:59 PM
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Hi Reema Savans, I hope you are doing well. I have a personal experience with surrogacy procedure. I will be answering your questions based on my experience. I was suffering from ovarian cancer. I was lucky enough to fight the battle of cancer and winning it. I am perfectly fine now. I am a mother of a baby now. The credit definitely goes to surrogacy. Yes, surrogacy is definitely a safe procedure with no side effects. Surrogate mothers are definitely facilitated by the clinic. They are provided with food, accommodation, medical services, transport services, translator and much more. The total expense of a surrogate mother is approximately EUR 30,000. Yes, we can meet surrogate mothers. We can even have Skype sessions or video calls with them. In short, surrogate mothers are provided with almost every kind of facility.
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Letty.. 2 Posts Saturday November 4, 2017Registration date November 8, 2017 Last seen - Nov 4, 2017 at 05:28 PM
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Hello Reema Savans, Yes, surrogacy is totally safe with no disadvantages and drawbacks. It has a high success rate as compared to other procedures and treatments. First, I was also worried about the surrogacy procedure. Later, when I experienced it myself, I was amazed to find out that it was simple and safe. I was suffering from ovarian cancer so I had to go for surrogacy in order to have my baby. Yes, the surrogate mothers are facilitated by the clinic. They are provided with everything that is required during the surrogacy procedure. A total sum of about EUR30, 000 is the expense for the surrogate mother. They provide them with food, transport, accommodation and a translator. The medical services are provided to them throughout their pregnancy. Yes, we can meet the surrogate mothers. The clients are not allowed to meet surrogate mother before the twelfth week. At the twelfth week, they are even allowed to have Skype session with surrogate mothers. I hope I have provided enough information to satisfy you. All the information I have provided is according to my personal experience.
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NevilleBarry 2 Posts Saturday November 4, 2017Registration date November 5, 2017 Last seen - Nov 4, 2017 at 06:11 PM
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Yes! Honey. Surrogacy is completely safe and sound. Actually, I prefer calling it one the greatest medical achievement of the 21st century. You can also search on the internet that many celebrities used surrogates to have a child. Well, as I've seen here in Ukraine. Most clinics do have really good care for surrogates. There is a clinic in Kiev from where I had it done. They had such an amazing facility for surrogates. They had them under observation; while respecting every expect of their health. They have them under nutritionists with proper diet for the child. I was pretty satisfied with seeing this all. I signed up for it. I'm really lucky to have this chance. We are planning to give another shot to it next year.
Lilystan 15 Posts Sunday July 29, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Aug 21, 2018 at 02:36 PM
Wow. That is great. I hope you succeeded through your journey. Surrogacy is an amazing procedure. Although people tend to think otherwise. But without any doubt it has helped out many couples. I hope your child is beautiful. Stay happy.
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JosetteLeclair 4 Posts Sunday November 5, 2017Registration date November 8, 2017 Last seen - Nov 5, 2017 at 01:12 AM
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"Yep - as safe as houses :)
In today's times, the answer to the question ''is it safe'' can be found by confirming if it's a proven (by science) method. If the answer is yes, then you heard me :D
I was listening to a specialist on TV last week, and he kept on saying (forty-eight I can count) that surrogacy is safe if you select the right clinic.
Now, your question changes, right? What's the right clinic? Where can I find one? Well, happy to reveal. There's a clinic in Ukraine (the one like in Europe), I can't seem to recall its name... oh common, what was it called??? It had something to do with tax I remember. I will be sure to ask my husband this morning what's happening with my brain (he's a doctor, okay... a Ph.D.) Well, sorry, honey! I think I can dig it for you if you are interested. Ask for me from ladies here. They all know.
About the mothers - hmm, so if I'm understanding it correctly, you want to ask if they are regularly called upon for checkups. Yes. The nurses at the clinic, when suggested by doctors, take surrogates' blood tests, provide them with medication, etc.
Now comes the meeting part from - I think you get to meet them near to the due date, I'm not sure though. Hey ladies, does anyone know if they allow meeting the SM? In fact, answer, when they will allow so?"
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PortiaHostetler 2 Posts Sunday November 5, 2017Registration date November 8, 2017 Last seen - Nov 5, 2017 at 01:26 AM
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Hey, Reema! Surrogacy is the safest procedure to have your own baby. Other procedures that are chosen by the infertile women to come out of their infertile condition have negative effects afterward and they are very less to be successful. However, surrogacy has always been the most successful procedure for the infertile women. It is totally safe because you will not have to do anything except just donating your eggs. The surrogate mother will carry your child and she will have to deal with all the other things during the pregnancy period. It is the responsibility of the clinic to take good care of the surrogate mother. Proper diet is given to the surrogate mother and she is under observation throughout the whole period. You are not allowed to meet the surrogate in the beginning of the process but later on, you can meet her. If you cannot visit the clinic to meet her the clinic can arrange Skype video calls for you to see and talk to the surrogate mother. Everything goes fine and you do not need to worry about anything. Stay blessed.
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SebastianClough 1 Posts Sunday November 5, 2017Registration date November 5, 2017 Last seen - Nov 5, 2017 at 01:52 AM
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Hey! It is a difficult decision to make for every infertile woman and I know you also want to be sure with all the procedure details so you don’t have any worries later. I also cannot have a baby due to my heart disease and I also want to go for surrogacy after my treatment still does not proves to be a success and I will wait for a few years. I don’t have my experience to share with you but I can share an experience with women who told her story on a forum related to surrogacy. She had written that surrogacy is the most reliable and safe in every case. As the surrogate mother will carry your pregnancy and you will have to do nothing so it is totally safe for you. The surrogate mother will carry your child and it has also been passed by the law that you can have surrogate mothers to carry your child. They are given every facility to make themselves at ease. She also told that the food quality is very good that is served by the surrogate mother. You can meet the surrogate mother after a specific time of her pregnancy and the clinic will tell you the time when you can meet her. After reading her experience I believe that there is nothing to worry about. I also suggest you that don’t think such negative things and just proceed with the process. My prayers and wishes are with you. Hugs and love!
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AveryPosey 4 Posts Sunday November 5, 2017Registration date November 8, 2017 Last seen - Nov 5, 2017 at 01:46 AM
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Yes! Its completely legal and safe dear. Well, I myself have a son through this process. Well, he really so intelligent and healthy now with us. I had surrogacy in 2015 and I visited every month there to see my surrogate, who helped us out of it and put me out of my misery. Well, I really think you should go for it. The clinic from where I had my procedure they had such an amazing take care of our surrogate mother; she was well accommodated. They take of their health on a very good standard. I don't know much about other clinics. But, from where I had it was in Ukraine and they had these all related facilities. I'm really lucky to have it all. You shouldn't overthink about it and go for it. It's really one of the perks of modern technology today.
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MarianelaBarone 4 Posts Sunday November 5, 2017Registration date November 8, 2017 Last seen - Nov 5, 2017 at 02:17 AM
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"""Hi, Dianna,

Sorry to hear about your cervical cancer :(

I pray that you do come out of that victoriously and go for surrogacy option.

It's not big of an issue if you don't have your eggs, most of the reproduction centers have egg donors available. In case you want to use eggs of anyone you know, that too can be done but for that, she (person donating the eggs) would have to go through an egg donor screening to check if she qualifies.

My advice would be to not worry about these things at this time. Please take a good care of yourself. You are a fighter and we want you to continue fighting til' you get on the safer side of it. We know you will.

Good Bye!"""
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prerona30 13 Posts Saturday October 28, 2017Registration date June 25, 2018 Last seen - Nov 7, 2017 at 01:54 PM
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Hello, surrogacy is completely safe to answer your question. It is in your hands to choose the surrogate mother and also the hospital in which she will be taken care of. Surely, the hospital will take 100% care of her. You just have to support yourself and the bearer of your child and you are half way there. Don't worry and keep your hopes up. Take care and all the very best!
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NatashaLiam 98 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date August 22, 2018 Last seen - Feb 21, 2018 at 01:02 PM
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I find a clinic as a good surrogacy record and a positive review too.
I also had many complication regarding pregnancy during my first marriage regarding pregnancy.
Now i am married for the second time and having a child from my own womb doesn’t seems to be easy keeping in mind the previous complications in my first marriage.
So now i am going for the surrogacy option as their is no other way to have a baby of my own.
I also contacted a clinic for surrogacy method and they responded very well to my questions.
I suggest you to go for this clinic and at least you should contact them and share your problem with them so that they can propose a better solution for you.
As they suggested surrogacy option for us.
Now they are looking for a good woman for our baby who can carry our baby in her womb for 9 months.
They will find a good female with all clear tests so that we don’t have to face any issue later.
Some clinics are very good clinic regarding surrogacy as i’m sharing my experience with all of you.
And i have to go through very hard time like i conceived for three times.
But miscarriage was in fate every time i conceived.
I consulted a clinic regarding surrogacy they provided me a positive feedback.
So for now i have convinced mt husband to go for surrogacy and he is ready too.
But i am worried about somethings also.
But that doesn’t matter as we don’t have any other option left for us.
Positive feedback will be appreciated. Thanks
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pheobe412 178 Posts Monday January 22, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Feb 22, 2018 at 11:51 AM
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They take a very good care of surrogate. You can take a very good care of your surrogate as well. Don't worry it's everything fine and safe in it. Surrogacy is very much effective in case of infidelities. It's much helpful for the couples who cannot conceive naturally. It's very effective approach to go with. A little bit expensive though. I think you already knew about it. Don't worry about caring. Surrogates will get a very good care.
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mistygray 128 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date October 13, 2018 Last seen - Feb 22, 2018 at 12:02 PM
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Hi. I hope you are doing good. I'm going to try and make this post helpful for you. Surrogacy is completely safe if you go to the renowned professional clinics for it. Surrogates are their responsibility. You can mee your surrogate after the 12th week of pregnancy. You will not have to worry about the surrogate. They notify you as they find you a surrogate that matches and the process begins. It is completely safe. Surrogacy is an ideal option for the people who cannot have their own children. The baby has your genes. Only the carrier is different. The clinics have a contract with the surrogates they choose for you. Making it all very convenient for the client. If you have any more questions regarding this you can hit me up. Good luck with whatever you choose. I hope I helped.
NatashaLiam 98 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date August 22, 2018 Last seen - Feb 28, 2018 at 05:46 AM
I'm 43 years old now and i have also no luck with babies too.
Now i am married for second time and i am thinking of having a baby again.
But the miscarriages from my last married life make me afraid and stops me getting pregnant again.
I persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy option.
As from my first marriage i had no luck with having a baby.
I had many complications while getting pregnant.
I conceived for three times but always resulted in miscarriage.
I think surrogacy is the best solution now adays where we can have a baby.
I consulted a number of clinics related to surrogacy.
Surrogacy is now adays a common method of having a baby for those women who can't have a baby out of their own womb.
I also met some surrogates moms and tried to know about their experiences and feedback about surrogacy.
I think it is pretty cool method for moms like me who can't have a baby of their own.
You better should research about surrogacy and should visit some clinics regarding surrogacy.
But i am worried about some aspects of having a baby from this process.
But as we have no other option left so i guess it is the only solution for us now.
Any women raising a baby from surrogacy method please share your experience with us.
mistygray 128 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date October 13, 2018 Last seen - Jun 5, 2018 at 07:28 AM
Sorry to hear about this Natasha. This sounds awful. I think you have done enough research. It's time you go for it. If you need any help you can just ask. I will be happy to help. Good luck with your surrogacy. I hope it all works out for you.
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alisa123 89 Posts Monday February 19, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Feb 22, 2018 at 12:42 PM
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Heya! You took the right decision at the right time, I think. Surrogacy is really the best option to go for. It's safe. Medically proven. And very smooth. You don't stress yourself. There are plenty of the clinics throughout the globe. The very good ones provide you with amazing surrogates. They keep in a very safe and sound environment. The surrogates are very healthy and so does the baby. You can obviously meet the surrogate. Take care of her and provide her with things which you think your baby should have. Research the clinics. Choose the one with positive reviews and then contact them. They will sure help you to the best! Good Luck!
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Angela1214 37 Posts Thursday February 22, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Feb 22, 2018 at 09:14 PM
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Hey dear. You sound little worried. It is good that you have finally decided to go for surrogacy. At first, you might have apprehensions but I can assure you that it is not much different from the normal pregnancy when it comes to the safety. Before going for any medical procedure one has to remember that anything can happen. It is a 50 50 thing. I am sure that you must have chosen the right clinic for the procedure. Visit your doctor and discuss your apprehensions. This counseling session would be a great help. I experienced the same concerns when my sister was going for surrogacy. This concern is natural because you have failed to conceive naturally. Now when you have made up your mind to go for surrogacy don't get scared. Be hopeful, be optimistic and think positive. Read through the reviews of your chosen clinics and I am sure you will come across many happy parents. Surrogacy is a real gift of medical science. Its worth for a couple not having babies for long is unimaginable. Take it as something natural and you will overcome all fears. Good luck dear. Hope to hear some good news from your side soon.
gia9 37 Posts Saturday October 21, 2017Registration date July 21, 2018 Last seen - Mar 17, 2018 at 04:14 PM
Hello Reema, I presume there's some serious infertility issue for which your final resort is Surrogacy... I'm sorry for the ordeal it caused. Yes, surrogacy is absolutely safe when done by experienced and excellent clinical professionals. You can check the credibility of your surrogacy clinic by discussing and counter-checking their success rate in surrogacy. Clinics usually maintain a pool of possible surrogates but an intensive matching is done with the mother to seek the one that physically resembles the mother as well as has same blood group and other stuff which are important to ensure foetus safety. Unlike donor conception, you get to know the surrogate and visits are also arranged in mid-term by the clinic even on request. Just make sure you check the contract thoroughly. The clinic is supposed to be responsible for any shortcomings on the surrogate's end and initiate a redo if the situation demands so free of any additional cost. Also, watch out for any hidden cost that might have a hinted in the contract... get legal assistance before you sign the contract in needed. Wish you luck
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