"I went through five rounds of IVF

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- Dec 9, 2018 at 12:56 PM
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"I went through five rounds of IVF and finally just had a baby. Initially, I started off hopefully. Then I would feel sad, then I would feel angry. I also felt like a total failure and would get really down on myself. I wish I'd known so much: Don't count on the first round working. Go to a counselor to help you sort through your feelings. Stick with self-preservation, avoid baby showers, and stay away from social media if you need to. Don’t tell people, or they will constantly ask you the status (if it takes, you want to be in the clear, and if it doesn’t, you won’t want to talk about it). And know your limit mentally and financially. After my fifth round, I planned on it not working and I was ready to move on with my life knowing I tried everything. Once I was getting ready to throw in the towel, IVF worked
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I met some ladies that had succesful ivf after just one cycle. The others are like you. Some decided to turn in surrogacy after unsuccessful ivf. I am glad that you didn't give up.
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hey, I am glad that you didn't give up! and so happy to see your faith retrieve but what about people like us who at a ripe age of 40 and do not have much time.For them don't you think surrogacy is the option left? As man around me did it and IVF has been tried by us many times and it did not work.The child may be half biologically mine and could be the whole mine if I use my own eggs but to let people of my age know that if IVF doesn't work we should consider going for surrogacy as the age does not wait.
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that's great to know you're a fighter it's so inspirational to find a story like this. Thank you so much for sharing it with all of us, I have been fighting infertility issues for quite some time, I mean not nearly as some women here but it seems like forever to me because all I can ever think about is having a baby boy of my own. I'm overwhelmed with emotions right now. Congratulations on your baby its good to know that IVF is working. keep us updated and take care of yourself.
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Hello everyone. From my experience couples tend to give up after five or six rounds because then the odds become far too low and it is so emotionally draining that they do not wish to put themselves through anymore in light of such slim odds. A third round, however, you still have reasonable odds. My partner deals in statics and we are currently TTC. He considered it all carefully and we decided that if nothing happens naturally and we do end up having IVF (quite likely given our circumstances) we will only have five rounds as after that the odds are not good enough to keep trying. At the end of the day, it is the decision and how much is prepared to invest financially and emotionally as it is a drain and it seems the more pump in the less likely are to want to pull out. I have seen this many times with couples trying for many years having 11 -15 rounds of IVF treatment to no avail. But I would certainly say give it another go at only three as still have a very good chance! Good luck and I hope to gain success if do decide to give it another try.
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It is great to listen to someone telling their success stories after many rounds of failure. I have gone through IVF 4 times but it failed every time for me. I guess if I had help on a little longer I could have had gotten pregnant but I do not think so that I will be trying once more. Thinking about surrogacy or adoption. Congratulation on your success though.
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Of course it's not your fault. The things you've mentioned. All are the complications that you had to face after IVF. It's just normal. It's written complications. You have to face them either way. Just don't worry. Be calm. Best of luck. Take care dear.
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Waaooo! Congratulations! Thankyou for sharing such a good news with us. Many heartiest congratulations for you. Yes IVF suits best to 80% of women. lots of love for you. Take care.
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It works dear. Just not for everyone. I am like you. IVF never worked for me also. What can we do. Life never stops. I am moving towards surrogacy now. I have no problem with money. I am just unable to use this method. I have to hide somethings first. That is my only problem. Just go for surrogacy. You can get it in several packages from several clinics in the world. I hope everything will be fine for you.
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I feel so good after reading your post. First of all, I empathize with you on your failures. Then, I am glad to know that you have had enough strength to fight it through. Congratulations on the successful IVF. I am very happy to know that your strength paid off. You are a total inspiration for many ladies out there.
I have seen many couples disappointed after their first. But here you are a living example of success and strength. Hats off to you. I wish you more power, success, and health in future.
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`Hey Shiwangi! First of all, I must say you are so strong. Even after trying naturally so many times. You still didn't give up after 4 rounds of IVF. That's just so inspiring. Many mothers give up even after one try. And others are like me who just go straight to surrogacy. I tried for like 5 years to conceive naturally. I was devastated. I had no more strength to try again, but then my sister told me about a clinic which was offering some very good packages for surrogacy. First, i was like it will be the same for everyone. But their packages were so affordable and the services they were providing in this low price was also unexpected. But I m glad that I went there and didn't give up. I never tried IVF but my sister had her twins through IVF. and I know how hard and painful it is. I can't even imagine the pain. You are also going to become a mother now haha, welcome to the women group, After this, you will never be a girl again. Much Love!
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shiwangi1219 I read your whole post and it was like that somebody is describing her weak points. Really your post turned my eyes full of tears. How much struggle you have made. After bearing and enduring tons of pain you get your baby. it’s not a simple and easy job. We need a lot of courage and bravery to do this. As you said you were at a point where you become sad and feel like you have no ambition. It means you don’t have any right to live in this world more. But the thing is courage and wait. Now a day woman can’t wait. Even they don’t bother to go through more and more cycles. They see after 3rd round they are consistently getting failure then they move towards surrogacy. After having a treatment at a well-known clinic they don’t bother their amount. They spend amount like a water is in flowing mode. So they should consider the positive side of IVF. They make hurry. Too much hurry. I think they don’t have strong believe in their selves.
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I'm pretty convinced and relieved after reading your entire post here on the forum. Well, yes! I agree that IVF works that way. I'm also a TTC. I'm a patient of PCOS, which makes me unable to conceive through naturally. I've tried nearly all of it...But, nothing worked...Now, opting for an IVF at a fertility clinic in Ukraine. So, yeah! Well, my dates are around June first week. So, I'm reading stuff here. Thanks for sharing this motivating post! It's my first round. Let's hope for the best! You're right about so many things there.
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Hello there! Hope you're holding up well. This is such a great story. Also, so, so relatable! Don't you just hate those pestering "family" members? I love the fact that you didn't give up. You do sound like a very confident and realistic woman. It's so important to not let your emotions get in the way. Keeping faith is so important. I'm delighted for you! I really hope the rest of the process goes smoothly. Keep us updated! You're a genuine inspiration. Thank you so much for sharing this post. Good luck!!
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Hey! such a great news.
Fifth round. I mean tough battle.
That's what others got to understand. no matter how much tough the battle is the end would be fruitful
And you have proved that.
Cheers to you lady.
Though no doubt IVF is a long and tiring journey. many women's drop this thing only because they just can't manage this stress.
I mean the way you explained your twist and turns.
That's common to have such feelings and emotions. we are humans.
And this is a stressful journey.
But the success is for the ones who never failed to struggle tough and never lose the patience and stay calm.
I wish no one had that tough journey like we are having.
That's was great reading your post.
Happiness to all others.
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that is extraordinary to know you're a warrior it's so rousing to discover a story like this. Much obliged to you such a great amount for imparting it to every one of us, I have been battling barrenness issues for a long while, I mean not so a few ladies here but rather it appears like perpetually to me since everything I can ever consider is having my very own infant kid. I'm overpowered with feelings at this moment. In any case, I would positively say give it another go at just three as still have a decent shot! Good fortunes and I would like to pick up progress if do choose to give it another attempt. simply go for surrogacy. You can get it in a few bundles from a few facilities on the planet. I seek there is no reason to worry after you.
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Hi there, It's so nice to read your success story, dear. It really satisfies my inner self when I see someone getting out of infertility successfully. I'm so happy for you. Your post will definitely motivate the people reading it. Most of the people on this forum are suffering from infertility. You should never lose hope. est of luck to everyone.
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Yes, as the success stories of IVF are very less, it feels good to hear, a bright side of the story. Yes, most of the people are suffering from infertility in this group, but infertility is not by choice. Our suggestions to them are to stay positive. Every bad situation will go, no bad can last for long.
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I am glad it worked for you. I am sure it must have been really difficult for you. When 4 cycles fail you really do lose hope. However, I am glad that you didnt give up! From personal experience and after having few conversations with some couples at the clinic I have realised that the clinic and the doctors play a huge role in ensuring that the process works out. One of the couples was telling me that they were visiting a different clinic and there 3 cycles failed. However, the moment they changed and came to this clinic their process was a success. So the experience of the doctor matters a lot as well. I always tell people to research about the clinic before visiting them. The more you will research the better it will be for you. I researched a lot as well and I am glad I did. It is because of the research that things are going so well. The services they provide are amazing. I love how their network of communication is effecient. I hope things work for me.
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Hi dear, congratulation on your success in parenting. I am glad that you did not lose hope. Your stairs to success were not easy it seems. I am glad it worked for you after various attempts. Losing hope is not the ultimate, one needs to have full faith in each step she does. Health anxiety and stress can lead to a huge mishap.
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This is such an emotional post. I feel so bad for what you have been through. Five times is a lot! I am amazed at your strength and dedication. And you are right. It is necessary to be mentally prepared that the first time does not necessarily work. Things you have said could not be any more true. With IVF you cannot be sure. You have to be very careful. Having baby showers and telling it to the people you know will only increase your expectations. In case it does not work you will have to face a lot of disappointment. The best thing is to keep it to yourself for as long as possible.
All this apart I am so happy for you. Even though i do not know you. But i have an inkling of your sufferings. Hope everything works out.
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Yes, five times is actually a lot, we should salute to her patience and the bravery she has in her. I wish every infertile woman learns from your story. Having a baby is a blessing from God, many hurdles may arise to achieve that blessing, still, we need to put a big smile and move ahead with other alternatives.
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I am glad that the 5th cycle worked out for you. IVF is unpredictable. Sometimes it works in the first go. Whereas sometimes it takes time. However, the success also depends on the clinic you visit. If the clinic and the doctors are professionals then things do tend to go well. I am really hoping for the best for my process as well. Prayers are needed.
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Amazing persistence, honey! It's great to see this. You could've easily given up. But, you didn't! That's honestly really brave of you. You deserve this happiness. Enjoy parenthood, now. It's a fabulous experience, very humbling, haha. I love reading success stories. They make my day. This was different than the normal ones. TTC can be so difficult. It's really hard to stay focused. It's even harder not to give up. Thank you for sharing your story with us!
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