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jenifercox 1 Posts Thursday January 25, 2018Registration date January 25, 2018 Last seen - Jan 25, 2018 at 06:53 PM - Latest reply: grace888 12 Posts Wednesday May 9, 2018Registration date May 19, 2018 Last seen
- May 15, 2018 at 09:42 AM
Hi everyone. I am feeling really really lost. I think I am never going to overcome this loss. I recently lost my kid during birth. I actually got late after my water broke. I was faint. My Husband was at his job. Luckily he came back home after 1 hour of my faintness and picked me up and went recently to hospital but my child was born dead. It was my first child. I feel like I killed him. It was a boy. I am so devastated. I have nothing now. I was at good diet. I don't know how this is happened. I am so much worried. At least someone please tell me how the hell this happened ?? what are reasons for this?? This happened to someone else ever ever ever!
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Lindajames22 15 Posts Monday January 22, 2018Registration date February 12, 2018 Last seen - Feb 2, 2018 at 04:52 AM
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I have no words to express myself. I am really very sorry to read all that, and it brought tears in my eyes. A long association of 9 months, you had prepared everything for him, all her nursery preparation and stuff. I ma sorry I don't want to make you more sad , but its the feelings that are coming. I wish if I could do any thing for you. A big hug . I would like to say that try to get over it, I know it's hard for you, but if we like it or not life has to go on. you asked for the reason of your child according to my understanding it could be the case of still birth. I would say it again try to keep yourself busy and try to overcome it. and if your health allows you try conceiving for other, as by having baby in your lap will ease your pain.
gia9 25 Posts Saturday October 21, 2017Registration date March 18, 2018 Last seen - Feb 9, 2018 at 02:54 AM
Yeah, it only makes it worse... all the preparations and stuff that they had been planning for the baby. Her grief is great and possibly something to last a lifetime but everyone needs to inspire and support her to move on with life at this point. Yes, it is a stillbirth even to my understanding. I totally agree with you that only by having a baby can this situation be somewhat neutralised and help her get normal. The road lay ahead and staying stuck won't help.
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jenifer345 13 Posts Tuesday January 30, 2018Registration date February 19, 2018 Last seen - Jan 30, 2018 at 09:11 AM
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"Hi, I'm so so sorry for your loss!! I too had a miscarriage I was meant to be 10 weeks but baby stopped growing at 6 weeks!! it sux I know you feel like you have hit rock bottom! no words can describe the pain! especially when you see other pregnant women or those who choose not to have a baby that they have been blessed with!! what can you do? pick up the pieces and live each day as it comes!! live your life for your hubby and because so many are not blessed with a great hubby and a family!! it does get easier I have started trying again, my period took 6 weeks to come. all you can do is keep praying for strength and you will get it !!all the best keep your head up and remember you have so many who love you!! and yeah my next one I'm not telling till I pass the danger zone because I told everyone so it was horrible good luck and don't forget you can try again.It's so much difficult to bear up and move from but nothing is impossible.Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Good luck lady.stay blessed."
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CarlyBenson - Jan 30, 2018 at 11:21 AM
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Hey. I don't know the reasons. Didn't you doctor tell you those? It is okay to feel this way. Do not give up. Don't lose hope. Keep trying. Be careful the next time you are close to your due date. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you recover soon!
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SashaMarcus 66 Posts Tuesday January 30, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - Jan 30, 2018 at 02:57 PM
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Hi Darling! Well, I am extremely sorry for your loss. First of all, I'd like you to know that It's not your fault! Nothing is devasted! You can get another again! Take your case with an infertility specialist and keep in the loop with your OBs. You really need it! Try again! It will work out for you. You don't have to lose hope! You can have it one way or another! Stay strong! I've been there. Write me back! I can help you out! If you need anything! xx
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pheobe412 98 Posts Monday January 22, 2018Registration date May 21, 2018 Last seen - Jan 30, 2018 at 08:54 PM
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It's not you. you didn't do anything. It was just his destiny. It was your destiny. Don't think like that you didn't killed him. It's just about what is written and what is going to happen. I am really sorry for your loss. we can't do anything but just talk. The real thing is your feeling. What you feeling is real. I am just sorry for your loss. May you get 2 more now. Please stay happy. God bless you.
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jenifercox06 4 Posts Tuesday January 30, 2018Registration date January 30, 2018 Last seen - Jan 30, 2018 at 09:28 PM
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We can't do anything about it. This is all just natural process. I know what you are going through. It's just hard time dear. don't worry everything is going to be fine soon. This could not be the end. the life goes on and there are many thing left. Try again dear. Everything is going to be fine. Just don't worry. I am really sorry again fro your loss dear.
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MelissaKirk 16 Posts Tuesday January 30, 2018Registration date February 7, 2018 Last seen - Feb 3, 2018 at 12:18 AM
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Hey Jennifer! I am so sorry for your loss but there are some things which can't be controlled by anyone. But you're not alone, it happened with a lot of women. But they also found a way to conceive instead of trying naturally once again. So don't worry, I wish you Good luck for your future, just done give up and stay strong! Much Love!
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kim345 2 Posts Monday February 5, 2018Registration date February 5, 2018 Last seen - Feb 5, 2018 at 05:20 AM
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Hello, I know what you're going through, there are no words or anything nobody can do, its ................ I lost a son years ago and I only had 6 weeks to go before giving birth, for a whole year I was ignoring people, could not face looking at babies and up till today its hard. we both love each other be supportive of one and other. Time will heal but never forgotten. I had a girl 7 years old, it certainly filled the gap but not fully.I wish you peace and happiness!!
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jenn945 17 Posts Friday February 2, 2018Registration date February 22, 2018 Last seen - Feb 6, 2018 at 11:14 AM
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this is so heart wrenching to read, the mutual affiliation you built in those 9 months is unmatchable according to me.But the life doesn't end here you must get up, and go for another one.Ask the doctor what went wrong he can guide you in the best way possible.And may it be any reason you must keep it in your mind that it was not your doing.It is never going to be possible that a mother could do wrong to her child ever.It is just your fate and you will have to accept it sooner or later.
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gia9 25 Posts Saturday October 21, 2017Registration date March 18, 2018 Last seen - Feb 9, 2018 at 02:49 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss dear one...it's a grievous loss indeed! :( hugs to you. It's not gonna be easy to make peace with this heart-wrecking experience but you should do whatever it takes to get back to normal life.. cry, express your emotion, take a holiday to reflect and heal that might just help. God bless you!

About the reason, once the water breaks it is the sign of the delivery time. The amniotic sac which acts as a cushion is no longer there to protect the baby from shocks, jerks etc. as soon as your water breaks. Also, the baby is unable to breathe if the delivery is delayed (not sure about the medical explanation though) which is why they use a suction cup when the mother is exhausted an unable to push any further. It could be either or all of the several reasons to have had caused such a misery. I wish you get the strength of heart and support of hope to resume TTC soon! :)
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stacyben 38 Posts Tuesday March 20, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - May 13, 2018 at 12:19 PM
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Hey. I am so sorry for you. It must be so hard for you. I know it is painful. But you have to get through it bravely. I had 3 miscarriages in a row. I was so upset. It happened in the first year of my marriage. I was so devastated yet didn't lose hope. I went for treatment when I came to know about uterine polyps. I decided to go for surrogacy. Now I have a baby. I am so happy that I chose it. I went for it to a clinic in Europe. They provided me with a healthy surrogate. I am so happy that I made a right decision.
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NatashaLiam 59 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - May 15, 2018 at 03:35 AM
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I am extremely sorry to hear about your loss it must be extremely devastating.
However, you shouldn't be afraid to go for surrogacy as it is a rescue for so many women who are unable to conceive naturally. It is a great method as it allows one to be genetically linked with the baby and has a high rate of success as well. Being in the same boat I was lucky enough to find a clinic which is very inexpensive as compared to the clinic where I live. The clinic was doing the treatment legally and was also ensuring that everyone was following the legal framework. I was concerned about the health of the surrogates one of the reasons why I didn't opt for private surrogacy. However, was glad to find out that in this clinic they had a medical test and if one passed it then they were only eligible to be the surrogates. Once a surrogate was pregnant she had to visit the clinic daily for check-ups as well. This was honestly amazing as the clinic was so efficient. The technology being used was so advanced that it was a complete mind blown moment for me. I was also very particular about the part where the custody of the child should belong to me. I was glad that the child's rights would belong to me and I honestly felt better. Keeping the whole treatment secret would also be possible as you'll be abroad for it. However, just make sure that your DH is in this with you otherwise there is no harm in opting for it.
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sidneywhite 12 Posts Thursday May 10, 2018Registration date May 22, 2018 Last seen - Updated by sidneywhite on 15/05/18 at 04:26 AM
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Sorry to hear about your loss. I have no words to console you. It must be hard on you. Being a mother, I can image your pain. Luckily, you are saved. It was not your fault. Think positive. Hope to hear good news from you soon.
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grace888 12 Posts Wednesday May 9, 2018Registration date May 19, 2018 Last seen - May 15, 2018 at 09:42 AM
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Hi darling. I am so sorry to hear such a sad news. I can feel the pain you have to go through. It must be really devastating for you. Sending you virtual hugs. Dear, what happened has happened. You can't get your past back. Try to overcome this. Get yourself in other activities that make you happy. Make yourself busy in the house chores. A good time will come, for sure. I know it is hard as I had a miscarriage too. But, we can't blame ourselves for this. Once, you find yourself at ease, plan out another pregnancy. Hoping to get a good news from you soon. All the best to you for your future. Take good care of yourself.
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