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Hey there. I hope you all are doing good. Okay, so I'm here to discuss something about my best friend. She's infertile. I know it's the worst thing ever. Getting pregnant is a wonderful feeling. She stays up all night thinking what would it feel like to carry a baby. I suggested her surrogacy but she refuses it every time. To her, this is immoral. In my opinion, the biggest gift is It's giving power. I'm so worried about her. She's waiting for a ship at an airport. She can't conceive this is what her doctors had told us very clearly. But I don't know how to convince her at this. I want her to go for surrogacy. She always refuses it. Kindly some good suggestions will be appreciated in this regard. What to do and how to do. I would love to read your replies. Take care everyone. Thanks in advance.
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Hi! Do not worry. Surrogacy would be fine for her. Please pray so that she accepts your opinion and once she agrees to consult the best doctor who will be able to give you all the support needed.
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Oh dear, that’s really weird. I’m feeling so sad and sorrowful for her. As I think, she is just seeing the one side of the image. She is totally ignoring the other. Things are not immoral. Those who make their bad use are immoral. She should take benefit of surrogacy as everyone is taking. Surrogacy is a blessing and a gift of science to the infertile ones, like her. Tell her to consult with the doctor and ask for opinion from her. Also, try to assure her husband and family about it. I think this is the only way that wo0uld be helpful for her. I have read many success stories here and people who experienced surrogacy treatment are very happy and satisfied with life. Life doesn’t always go in the way people think. But we should follow the lines and continue to move with the flow. I’m sure that she will agree with you this time. So best wishes to her. May her life always be filled with greenery of life!
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Hi! I'm so sorry for your friend. I hope she is alright. I think surrogacy is a great option for her too. It has become very common nowadays. For good reason too! I mean, what are you to do if you can't conceive? Surely not sit around and mope about it. I myself am unable to. I have no uterus as it was removed due to cancerous polyps. It's been a tough time for me as well. However, as soon as I was introduced to surrogacy I began my research on it. I found this great clinic in Europe that fit in my budget and with fingers crossed I went for it. I had a great experience with it. I'd definitely recommend it! Good luck convincing your friend. IT's the outcome that matters more than the process here!
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Feels so sorry for her! I know how it feels.It is a tough life.
There are many misconceptions regarding surrogacy even I’ve come across. But I guess people have to consider the perspective of individual who has left with no other option.
This is an incomplete feeling. And a fear of being left with all this for whole life is just way too tough.
I’ve struggled for so long to conceive but found no luck.
But that was not my fault!
But world often claims you to be the reason for it. For how long would you bare all this.
There must be an end to every tough situation.
Even I had so many questions and confusions but still, there are so many individuals in the world who would appreciate you.
They have made their success stories through surrogacy. So why won’t you?
I am confident enough to go for this procedure. She should also understand no one is going to help her in the struggle she is living.
She has to make a step.
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don't get sad at all it could happen to anyone it's a natural thing we can't do anything about it. the time you just said you're ttc is just normal, you just have to keep trying for longer and getting sad and hopeless is not the way to go in this matter, because it's not the only way you have, you have many choices right in front of you, just never lose hope try to keep your diet accurate and you know what would be the best, if you consult with the specialist then you have to get through by some fertility tests. But that isn't necessary at all right now I mean it's just been 6 months, Sometimes it just takes more time than you expect but if you are not satisfied mentally than you must've to consult specialists and he is going to help you than and don't worry everything is going to get fine.
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You are absolutely right pheobe412. Infertility is the really hard thing for women. It completely breaks down women. But its all natural and it can happen to anyone. Yesterday I was reading online about infertility and infertility treatments where I found out that Every sixth woman faces infertility every year. There are treatments available too due to which we can get rid of infertility. Still many people instead of looking for some alternative they give up. In my neighborhood, a family gives up after having an awful experience at the clinic. This was really sad for me. I told them about a prominent clinic in Europe which is doing excellent in this field. People from all over the world visit them. They have high success rates as compare to other. I gave her their contact number and now they are going to visit them.
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Hey! I am so sorry for your friend. Surrogacy is a great option for having babies. It is not immoral because it is sometime last hope of a woman. I am also an infertile woman. I also wanted to have babies but that was not in fate. I decided to go for surrogacy as my last option because I was not able to conceive naturally. Every woman wants to get pregnant but sometimes that is not of fate. Noe, I have a baby through surrogacy. I am so happy that I am blessed by surrogacy.
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Hi ladies. I really felt sad to know that your friend is infertile. Dear, a lot of ladies are facing this problem, you are not the only one. My best friend is also facing this issue. She was TTC for a long time but no luck. She was not taking the stress but feeling uncomfortable. She is just 26 and still facing issues. Your friend is very lucky as she has a sincere friend like you. My friend has finally got a child through surrogacy. Surrogacy is a great blessing of science. The clinic from where she had surrogacy treatment is very well-known. They are really doing an awesome job. I will say that your friend should also go for it. If she has already experienced this process, I am certain she will get success. She might have to face problems but definitely get the destination. Baby dust to you!
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I think it's all about mindset. She should decide what she prioritizes. If she really wants a baby, she will open up her mind to it. The thing is, many people think this way. I had surrogacy. I don't think it's immoral. It's the most selfless deed ever.
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Hey there, I heard about the problem. My deepest sympathies to her. That news must be a terrible shock for her. My friend had to deal with this similar situation. She was also not conceived. I had to put in my best effort and my precious time. Convincing my friend about surrogacy was a hard nut to crack. I had to take the help of some clinics. They provided information related to its advantages. I had to wait sometime before the good news came. Believe me today she is living a happy life. She has two kids. Now they are a complete family. I suggest you the same thing. Do not give up. Wish you good luck.
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I can relate to her situation.We as women want to carry our own baby. It is what makes a woman complete. Unfortunately, some of us get deprived of it. Well, there are solutions for it. Your friend doesn't wanna go for Surrogacy. That is fair enough. It is her choice.She has every right to deny it. She can opt for IVF.It will chemically fertilize her eggs.Then implant them back into her.If the process is successful.She will get pregnant for sure.I think this will be her best option. Do tell her about it.
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Hey. I know it's a hard time for her. This feeling of infertility is really painful. Your friend shouldn't refuse Surrogacy. She should go for it immediately. Surrogacy is the best unnatural method than others. As it is not painful and expensive than others. I had a uterine polyps disease. Due to which I faced infertility. I can understand her situation because I had suffered the same. But when I adopted Surrogacy I felt really happy. I have done my Surrogacy from a clinic in Europe. They provided me a surrogate who gave birth to our child. Now I have my own biological baby through Surrogacy. I am blessed to have him. I hope your friend would adopt this method too.
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Hey. I am so sorry for your friend. It must be really hard for her. I know how much it hurts. I am also an infertile woman. It was a dream of me to have a baby and to feel the baby inside. Well, that was not in fate. I was no one to fight my fate. I accepted it and went for treatments too. I wasted 4 years in this thing. I just wasted my precious time. In the end, I went for surrogacy. I went for it to Europe. I have a baby now and I am a happy mother.
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Hey there. I hope your friend is good and so are you. It's really hard to accept your situation being infertile. I know, it took me years. And a few miscarriages to cement my belief that there really was nothing I could've done more. However, she needs all the support she can get from you, and her husband. I'd suggest you stick by her. If she does not want to go for surrogacy and wants to expect herself, then suggest her IVF? I don't know the details of her infertility so I can't be sure whether it would be the right way to go. If she can carry a baby, then IVF really is the perfect option for her. They fertilize the eggs in the lab and put them back in. That's the entire procedure. It's a bit painful, but give it a go if she's willing. Good luck to her. I really hope it works out for her.
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Hello. I am so sad for your friend. It must be extremely hard for her. I know the amount it harms. I am also an infertile lady. It was a fantasy of me to have a child and to feel the infant inside. Well, that was not in destiny. I was no one to battle my destiny. I acknowledged it and went for medicines as well. I squandered 10 years in this thing. I simply squandered my valuable time. At last, I went for surrogacy. I took the plunge to Europe. I have a child now and I am a glad mother.
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Hey. It might hurtful to your friend. It might be hard for her. But don't worry about it she has other options. I would recommend that she should go for surrogacy. IVF is also a good process if a best and professional place is searched for it. Only in rare cases, it might go successfully on the first cycle. IVF is painful and not so successful process. It would be helpful for adults or for people less than 35. Otherwise, it may cause complications. Surrogacy is an easy and Simple process. It is neither risky nor the intended parents face any problems. I have a baby through surrogacy. I chose it when I came to know that I have endometriosis. I went for treatment and it went successful but it left me infertile. So the only option of surrogacy was left for me. I have seen surrogacy miracles and I would recommend this to your friend too. She just has to find the best clinic for surrogacy because the clinic matters most.
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Hey, How are you? Hope you are fine. Welcome to this forum. Thanks for sharing your worries with us. I hope you will get good piece of advice here. Its good to know that your are supporting your friend in her hard times. We all need a friend like you.Well dear tell her that its all the part of life. It is not the end. Everything will be alright very soon. Take her to clinic doctor will explain her well. She will surely go for it..My prayers are with you.
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Hey there, Hope you are fine. sorry to hear about your friend. she is in a very hard situation. You must try to convince her very politely. Make her doubts clear about surrogacy. She is under stress now. Surrogacy is banned in many countries I know. But it has been practiced in many countries legally. The baby will be completely biological to the IP. And the surrogates do it with their own will. So As far as my thinking is concerned, Surrogacy is not immoral. It's a way to help couples who have lost their hope to have a child. The IP who want to enjoy motherhood can make it possible. I think surrogacy is a light in dark tunnel.
All the best to your friend.
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Hey Melissa. How are you? Well, I am sorry for your friend. It's really unfortunate for her. Dear, I am glad that you are there for her in bad times. Why don't your friend go for IVF? As in this process, she can carry her child. If there is no health problem with her then you might give her suggestion of IVF. Maybe this will favour her. Wish you best of luck.
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Just please tell her to stay calm. Don't worry about it. There are a lot of other methods for her. She could try on of those. Anything would become a life changer for her. Just tell her don't be worry about this. Keep yourself attached to her. In every matter, help her. She definitely needs that.
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Hi Melissa! Hope you are in good health. I am so sorry to hear about your friend infertility situation. I have also been there and know how hard it can be both physically and emotionally. I am glad she has a friend like you to take care of her in her difficult times. Surrogacy is indeed a beautiful process and the only reason your friend might find it immoral is that of her lack of knowledge of the case. I recommend that you ask her to meet some couple who have success stories regarding surrogacy. I have also been through surrogacy and when I decided to go for it I had to face a lot of negativity from the society. Most people consider it unethical or immoral. In my opinion, everyone deserves to be a parent and to have such options and not avail them is just sad. I went for surrogacy from Ukraine after 2 failed IVF and IUI cycles. Surrogacy was my last option. I am now a mother of my own baby daughter that I had through surrogacy. I hope your friend finds happiness. Take care.
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