Discussion

AdnanBirmani 1 Posts Wednesday February 14, 2018Registration date February 14, 2018 Last seen - Feb 14, 2018 at 02:31 PM - Latest reply: Silvija2020 52 Posts Saturday April 7, 2018Registration date September 30, 2018 Last seen
- Sep 30, 2018 at 02:26 PM
Hello All!
I'm 43 years of age now.
I was married once and now i'm married again with my first marriage i had no luck of having children.
I was pregnant for many times in my first marriage but had many complications regarding having a baby.
Now i'm married again and i'm at an age of 43 by now and have no luck with having a baby again in my 2nd marriage too.
Although i have conceived 3 times in my 2nd marriage but had miscarriages every time i conceived.
Now luck and chances of having a baby from my own womb are no where to be seen.
So, i have convinced my husband to go for the surrogacy option as we have no other way to go for having a baby.
I know surrogacy is very common now adays but i'm also afraid of it too.
I know each and every aspect of surrogacy.
I researched alot about it and had concerned some clinics for it with positive feedback.
But i am worried about my behaviour towards a baby that i am going to have after this.
Tell me about your experience if you have also gone for surrogacy.
Anxiously waiting for comments and positive suggestions. Thanks in advance.
See more 

Your reply

20 replies

Best answer
alisa123 89 Posts Monday February 19, 2018Registration date August 27, 2018 Last seen - Mar 29, 2018 at 01:48 PM
1
Thank you
Hi there! I hope you're okay. I'm very sorry to hear about your difficult life. You have had so many miscarriages in your life. You must be a strong woman. I'm glad you still haven't given up. You should definitely go for surrogacy. It is the most reliable method nowadays. It is helping infertile couples around the world in becoming parents. I had my daughter through a surrogacy process from Ukraine. She is one adorable creature. I love her to the moon and back. There isn't anything precious than her to me. I can feel the desperation you have for a baby. Trust me, when the baby is born, you automatically become attached to it. And why won't you? The baby is biologically yours. So, don't worry. Opt for surrogacy. It is merely a blessing for people like us. Best of Luck!

Thank you, alisa123 1

Something to say? Add comment

CCM has helped 0 users this month

NatashaLiam 98 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date August 22, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 12:24 AM
Hello all!
Now at the age of 43 i am married again to someone else and we want a baby of our own.
I know at this age it is quite difficult to have a baby off my own womb.
Keeping in mind all the complications regarding pregnancy now i think i should go for some other option to have children.
From my last marriage i had many complications regarding pregnancy.
I don't have any other options left so far so surrogacy is the only solution to my problems i guess.
He agreed to my proposal so i started looking for clinics with good surrogacy records.
I founded many clinics regarding surrogacy and i picked up the few clinics too for further discussion with them.
I contacted many clinics and told them every aspect of our complications.
From their satisfied answers i guess some clinics are the best solution for having a baby.
So i suggest that you people should also do your own research regarding surrogacy and should contact different clinics for further details.
Like i was facing miscarriages every time i conceived.
But i'm worried about many other aspects like my behaviour towards the baby after knowing everything.
Like when the baby grows up what i should tell him/her.
So i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy to have our own children.
If someone is raising a baby from surrogacy method please share your experience with us so we can learn something from your experiences.
Respond to alisa123
Best answer
amanda280 37 Posts Tuesday March 13, 2018Registration date June 27, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 12:17 PM
1
Thank you
Hey! I hope you are fine. Well, I guess you are just overthinking. I'm sorry that you had to face all this. I know it's for you. But that doesn't mean that you start to overthink. I'm sure nothing is going to happen later. You badly want a baby, right? And when the baby will come into your arms, you'll love him/her more than yourself. You'll feel like you're the happiest person on earth. It's an amazing feeling to hold your baby after waiting so much. I've gone through the phase of infertility. It had given me a lot of pain. It was then when I decided to have surrogacy. I'm glad that I took a wise decision. I would recommend the same to you. Things are going to be fine so don't worry. All the best!

Thank you, amanda280 1

Something to say? Add comment

CCM has helped 0 users this month

Respond to amanda280
Best answer
mistygray 134 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date October 18, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 12:19 PM
1
Thank you
You shouldn't worry about a thing. It is going to be your own baby. I'm sure you will love him just as much. I had my baby through surrogacy almost a year ago. My experience was actually great. Everyone has their ups and downs. Nothing is perfect. After applying, I had to wait three months till they found me a matching surrogate. This time varies for everyone. I got very anxious during this. I thought they might never be able to find a surrogate for me. Not everyone is willing to spend nine months carrying someone else's child. I was starting to lose hope when I finally got a call from my clinic. They had found a surrogate for me and we had to fly to Ukraine for the procedure to start. Luckily, my surrogate conceived immediately. I have a beautiful baby boy now.

Thank you, mistygray 1

Something to say? Add comment

CCM has helped 0 users this month

rebeccaD 32 Posts Monday March 19, 2018Registration date July 18, 2018 Last seen - Apr 4, 2018 at 04:46 AM
Congratulations on having a baby! :) I totally agree with you... there's really no need to feel it's not your baby if you've had him/her with the help of surrogacy! Though I haven't had surrogacy, in fact, I'm on with my fertility struggle at the moment... but I too can say this that the more one thinks about it the more the worries makes them bogged down with insecurities.
mistygray 134 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date October 18, 2018 Last seen - Sep 26, 2018 at 03:30 PM
Hey Rebecca. Thanks for reading my comment and replying to it. It is good to know that you agree with me. Surrogacy changed my entire life. I achieved something I never thought I would be able to. I wish you a very good like with your struggles. I hope everything works out.
Respond to mistygray
SashaMarcus 96 Posts Tuesday January 30, 2018Registration date August 19, 2018 Last seen - Feb 15, 2018 at 09:19 AM
0
Thank you
Hi there! Well, I just read your story and reached a point that our situations are quite same. I know how infertility haunts someone. I've not exactly experienced with surrogacy...But, I'm currently under the supervision of a clinic for my infertility issues. I've been referred for an IVF later this year. I've to go to Ukraine for it. They also provide surrogacy and related services. It's actually my husband's friend colleague, who went there; their experience was very good and that's why after listening to them about the facilities and services they had in Kiev. I made up my mind and now my case is in progress. So, yeah! I think you should really go for it. Don't waste any more years! Having a child is really important! Take care! I hope it goes well for you. :)
Respond to SashaMarcus
Alessia.Violet 137 Posts Sunday January 21, 2018Registration date October 13, 2018 Last seen - Mar 29, 2018 at 11:31 AM
0
Thank you
You've been through a lot through your life. However, don't worry things will be alright. Surrogacy has indeed been helping a lot of people. I myself have opted for the process. It is lovely to see the reaction of couples at the clinic. As the intended parents finally are able to have their own children. The thing with surrogacy is it is different. The embryos instead of being inserted in you are inserted in the surrogate's uterus. However, the child is still genetically connected to you. I think that is rather the biggest factor. So I don't see why your behavior towards him/her would be different. As the babies behavior will depend on the love you give them. So child loves those who show them, love. Apart from that, it is a misconception to believe that the child's attitude will be different. It will remain the same so best of luck for your journey.
NatashaLiam 98 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date August 22, 2018 Last seen - Apr 2, 2018 at 11:28 AM
I had a number of complications and problems while getting pregnant.
I conceived for three times but resulted in miscarriage every time.
Now i'm marries for the second time and my husband wants a baby from me.
I told him every aspect regarding my pregnancy issues.
I persuaded him to go for surrogacy option as well.
I guess you also should go for surrogacy method as it is most common now adays.
You should definitely have a baby via surrogacy also you are a tv model so surrogacy will be best for you.
I researched about surrogacy and found it quite helpful for those mothers who can't have a baby from their own womb.
So if you want a baby and want to keep it a secret as well then this surrogacy method is good option for you.
I'm just sharing my thoughts with you regarding surrogacy.
Alessia.Violet 137 Posts Sunday January 21, 2018Registration date October 13, 2018 Last seen > NatashaLiam 98 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date August 22, 2018 Last seen - Sep 30, 2018 at 11:24 AM
Hey, Natasha, thank you for the advice. I hope people are able to take some help out of it. I have already opted for surrogacy. So far everything has been going great. It is a long process and you have to be patient while you are on it. A few weeks back when we made the final payment according to the package we chose the process started for us. The clinic confirmed our details just to ensure that no error was made. After this they gave us the access to their egg donor database. They had over a 100 donors in their database. Once, we had chosen the best possible one for us we informed the clinic. After this, the clinic has now asked my husband to visit so that they could do the sperm analysis just to make sure they don't need to improve the quality. So I am really liking how they are doing everything very carefully. I hope everyone else's experience goes in a similar manner. Good luck to you. I hope you the very best of luck.
Silvija2020 52 Posts Saturday April 7, 2018Registration date September 30, 2018 Last seen - Sep 30, 2018 at 02:26 PM
I live in Bulgaria where surrogacy is prohibited. So we have to move to another state to get to a clinic regarding surrogacy. Like you I am also looking for surrogacy. I am learning from others people experience about surrogacy. Many people here are going towards surrogacy they some experience about it. Most of the couples have gone through surrogacy so they have some experience or feedback regarding it.
I have read from many people that there are very popular clinics regarding surrogacy. Many people share their success stories of that clinic. I also watched some videos regarding surrogacy from that clinic.
I am also looking for some information regarding surrogacy. I am infertile and there is no such reason behind my infertility. I have been to many doctors but they can't tell the reason behind my infertility. So now I have decided to go for surrogacy.
Respond to Alessia.Violet
Meezee 5 Posts Friday March 30, 2018Registration date June 3, 2018 Last seen - Mar 30, 2018 at 03:28 PM
0
Thank you
Condolences with you. I am happy you decide it timely. I myself a victim of infertility and opted surrogacy. I must say its a good decision you took. O have two surrogate babies. I went europe for this and had a successful procedure. I found it more reliable and legal process. My respects for the surrogate who bear pain and faces emotional circumstances for my happiness. Good luck for you journey and looking forward to hear your success story.
Respond to Meezee
HanRIchie 45 Posts Monday March 12, 2018Registration date August 29, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 09:53 AM
0
Thank you
Hi there! I hope you're well. Don't be so tensed about this. I had my doubts before going ahead with surrogacy. But it all ended up so well for me. It's been great. It took me out of my down time. I don't think you'll behave any differently with your child. It'll be yours! That's the best thing. It's such a blessing to get to have your own child. I wish you all the best with it! You'll love it. Got my fingers crossed for you! Good luck!
Respond to HanRIchie
0
Thank you
You are incredibly brave for sharing this story with us! I really admire how you are so open and honest with your viewers - even when it is something so important and personal to you. This was so informative and even for anyone who isn't going through it - it definitely gives an insight and allows us to learn and to be respectful and mindful of other peoples circumstances. From the bottom of my heart I wish you and Wes the very best with your journey - I can't even imagine how much of a rollercoaster it must be xxxx
Respond to racheliqua
Emilykingston 10 Posts Friday March 30, 2018Registration date August 29, 2018 Last seen - Apr 3, 2018 at 01:24 AM
0
Thank you
The moment they will hand your baby to you your fear will run away. You will never recall again if that baby was born via your womb or not. The mere sense of motherhood is so special. You will love the baby more than your life. My surrogate son is the apple of my eyes. I can never think of living without him.Please get this fear out of your mind.
Respond to Emilykingston
rebeccaD 32 Posts Monday March 19, 2018Registration date July 18, 2018 Last seen - Apr 4, 2018 at 04:42 AM
0
Thank you
I'm so sorry to hear about your losses and the ordeal you've been through in your fertility attempt! :( Some of us are not lucky to get pregnant swiftly and have a full-term gestation thereafter to be a mother.... but thankfully clinical assistance is there to help us. I hope you don't mind if I ask a couple of questions to understand your case better! when did you conceive last? Did you conceive naturally or it with the help of IVF? Assuming a preliminary diagnosis has already been done, what is your AMH level? 43 is certainly not old enough for either IVF or surrogacy. Moreover, if so far you've had conceived naturally only then you better consider IVF from a clinic that specialises with older couple and has a convincingly high success rate. Often the MCs could be a result of a faulty chromosome which can be identified and eliminated with the help of IVF. Availability of multiple embryo and genetic screening helps isolate the affected embryo thereby increasing your chance of success. However, if it's surrogacy you'd have to undergo... rest assured when your child is born it will be no different than the one you'd have carried in your womb. The children are like unspoilt moulds of pottery... unless you make them feel different they will not reciprocate that... so don't ponder on your fears!
Respond to rebeccaD
Emilykingston 10 Posts Friday March 30, 2018Registration date August 29, 2018 Last seen - Aug 29, 2018 at 05:28 PM
0
Thank you
Hi Mahie, how are you my dear? So sorry to hear about your failed IVF. Don’t take tension. I know sometimes it can be very hard to face infertility but I suggest you not to get depressed due to your failed IVF. Have faith in God, everything will be fine. I think maybe that doctor or that fertility hospital is not good. But I suggest you to go for surrogacy as it is the best treatment and gives hundred percent results. So don’t lose hope and stay strong in your journey. God bless you. Bye
Respond to Emilykingston
Rhuma123 13 Posts Friday February 2, 2018Registration date August 30, 2018 Last seen - Aug 30, 2018 at 07:36 AM
0
Thank you
hi! We are all absolutely fine and what’s about you? Yes, I can realize all of your grief now. I am completely satisfied with this point that in adoption the baby doesn’t have any biological contact with his parents. But on the other hand, I think that everybody has different cases. surrogacy may not be applicable to everyone. It may be proved helpful for one person and may not be proved helpful for the other. So, I will advise you guys to research out the pros and cons of all the treatments before joining them.
Respond to Rhuma123
littlebeastshaya 45 Posts Friday May 18, 2018Registration date September 3, 2018 Last seen - Sep 3, 2018 at 02:50 AM
0
Thank you
Hey! I've been through a similar situation to yours too. I wish I could conceive naturally. But this is not in our hands. Anyway. Surrogacy is a great procedure. I've had a great experience with it and evidently, you have too! I too think sometimes to get another child through it. Just thinking of the expense. Surely, the clinic we went to previously was a lot more suitable to our budget than those in America. Where did you go? I think that if you have the finances for it, you should definitely go ahead. There shouldn't be a legal problem. But email the clinic and ask nonetheless!
Respond to littlebeastshaya
saidjakson 8 Posts Saturday September 29, 2018Registration date September 30, 2018 Last seen - Sep 30, 2018 at 12:32 AM
0
Thank you
There is a lot of children they haven't a parents take one give him your love he will be your baby
Respond to saidjakson