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AdnanBirmani 1 Posts Wednesday February 14, 2018Registration date February 14, 2018 Last seen - Feb 14, 2018 at 02:31 PM - Latest reply: rebeccaD 13 Posts Monday March 19, 2018Registration date May 20, 2018 Last seen
- Apr 4, 2018 at 04:46 AM
Hello All!
I'm 43 years of age now.
I was married once and now i'm married again with my first marriage i had no luck of having children.
I was pregnant for many times in my first marriage but had many complications regarding having a baby.
Now i'm married again and i'm at an age of 43 by now and have no luck with having a baby again in my 2nd marriage too.
Although i have conceived 3 times in my 2nd marriage but had miscarriages every time i conceived.
Now luck and chances of having a baby from my own womb are no where to be seen.
So, i have convinced my husband to go for the surrogacy option as we have no other way to go for having a baby.
I know surrogacy is very common now adays but i'm also afraid of it too.
I know each and every aspect of surrogacy.
I researched alot about it and had concerned some clinics for it with positive feedback.
But i am worried about my behaviour towards a baby that i am going to have after this.
Tell me about your experience if you have also gone for surrogacy.
Anxiously waiting for comments and positive suggestions. Thanks in advance.
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alisa123 33 Posts Monday February 19, 2018Registration date April 14, 2018 Last seen - Mar 29, 2018 at 01:48 PM
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Hi there! I hope you're okay. I'm very sorry to hear about your difficult life. You have had so many miscarriages in your life. You must be a strong woman. I'm glad you still haven't given up. You should definitely go for surrogacy. It is the most reliable method nowadays. It is helping infertile couples around the world in becoming parents. I had my daughter through a surrogacy process from Ukraine. She is one adorable creature. I love her to the moon and back. There isn't anything precious than her to me. I can feel the desperation you have for a baby. Trust me, when the baby is born, you automatically become attached to it. And why won't you? The baby is biologically yours. So, don't worry. Opt for surrogacy. It is merely a blessing for people like us. Best of Luck!

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NatashaLiam 59 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 12:24 AM
Hello all!
Now at the age of 43 i am married again to someone else and we want a baby of our own.
I know at this age it is quite difficult to have a baby off my own womb.
Keeping in mind all the complications regarding pregnancy now i think i should go for some other option to have children.
From my last marriage i had many complications regarding pregnancy.
I don't have any other options left so far so surrogacy is the only solution to my problems i guess.
He agreed to my proposal so i started looking for clinics with good surrogacy records.
I founded many clinics regarding surrogacy and i picked up the few clinics too for further discussion with them.
I contacted many clinics and told them every aspect of our complications.
From their satisfied answers i guess some clinics are the best solution for having a baby.
So i suggest that you people should also do your own research regarding surrogacy and should contact different clinics for further details.
Like i was facing miscarriages every time i conceived.
But i'm worried about many other aspects like my behaviour towards the baby after knowing everything.
Like when the baby grows up what i should tell him/her.
So i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy to have our own children.
If someone is raising a baby from surrogacy method please share your experience with us so we can learn something from your experiences.
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amanda280 19 Posts Tuesday March 13, 2018Registration date May 22, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 12:17 PM
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Hey! I hope you are fine. Well, I guess you are just overthinking. I'm sorry that you had to face all this. I know it's for you. But that doesn't mean that you start to overthink. I'm sure nothing is going to happen later. You badly want a baby, right? And when the baby will come into your arms, you'll love him/her more than yourself. You'll feel like you're the happiest person on earth. It's an amazing feeling to hold your baby after waiting so much. I've gone through the phase of infertility. It had given me a lot of pain. It was then when I decided to have surrogacy. I'm glad that I took a wise decision. I would recommend the same to you. Things are going to be fine so don't worry. All the best!

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mistygray 65 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 12:19 PM
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You shouldn't worry about a thing. It is going to be your own baby. I'm sure you will love him just as much. I had my baby through surrogacy almost a year ago. My experience was actually great. Everyone has their ups and downs. Nothing is perfect. After applying, I had to wait three months till they found me a matching surrogate. This time varies for everyone. I got very anxious during this. I thought they might never be able to find a surrogate for me. Not everyone is willing to spend nine months carrying someone else's child. I was starting to lose hope when I finally got a call from my clinic. They had found a surrogate for me and we had to fly to Ukraine for the procedure to start. Luckily, my surrogate conceived immediately. I have a beautiful baby boy now.

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rebeccaD 13 Posts Monday March 19, 2018Registration date May 20, 2018 Last seen - Apr 4, 2018 at 04:46 AM
Congratulations on having a baby! :) I totally agree with you... there's really no need to feel it's not your baby if you've had him/her with the help of surrogacy! Though I haven't had surrogacy, in fact, I'm on with my fertility struggle at the moment... but I too can say this that the more one thinks about it the more the worries makes them bogged down with insecurities.
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SashaMarcus 66 Posts Tuesday January 30, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - Feb 15, 2018 at 09:19 AM
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Hi there! Well, I just read your story and reached a point that our situations are quite same. I know how infertility haunts someone. I've not exactly experienced with surrogacy...But, I'm currently under the supervision of a clinic for my infertility issues. I've been referred for an IVF later this year. I've to go to Ukraine for it. They also provide surrogacy and related services. It's actually my husband's friend colleague, who went there; their experience was very good and that's why after listening to them about the facilities and services they had in Kiev. I made up my mind and now my case is in progress. So, yeah! I think you should really go for it. Don't waste any more years! Having a child is really important! Take care! I hope it goes well for you. :)
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Alessia.Violet 45 Posts Sunday January 21, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - Mar 29, 2018 at 11:31 AM
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You've been through a lot through your life. However, don't worry things will be alright. Surrogacy has indeed been helping a lot of people. I myself have opted for the process. It is lovely to see the reaction of couples at the clinic. As the intended parents finally are able to have their own children. The thing with surrogacy is it is different. The embryos instead of being inserted in you are inserted in the surrogate's uterus. However, the child is still genetically connected to you. I think that is rather the biggest factor. So I don't see why your behavior towards him/her would be different. As the babies behavior will depend on the love you give them. So child loves those who show them, love. Apart from that, it is a misconception to believe that the child's attitude will be different. It will remain the same so best of luck for your journey.
NatashaLiam 59 Posts Friday February 16, 2018Registration date May 23, 2018 Last seen - Apr 2, 2018 at 11:28 AM
I had a number of complications and problems while getting pregnant.
I conceived for three times but resulted in miscarriage every time.
Now i'm marries for the second time and my husband wants a baby from me.
I told him every aspect regarding my pregnancy issues.
I persuaded him to go for surrogacy option as well.
I guess you also should go for surrogacy method as it is most common now adays.
You should definitely have a baby via surrogacy also you are a tv model so surrogacy will be best for you.
I researched about surrogacy and found it quite helpful for those mothers who can't have a baby from their own womb.
So if you want a baby and want to keep it a secret as well then this surrogacy method is good option for you.
I'm just sharing my thoughts with you regarding surrogacy.
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Meezee 3 Posts Friday March 30, 2018Registration date April 11, 2018 Last seen - Mar 30, 2018 at 03:28 PM
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Condolences with you. I am happy you decide it timely. I myself a victim of infertility and opted surrogacy. I must say its a good decision you took. O have two surrogate babies. I went europe for this and had a successful procedure. I found it more reliable and legal process. My respects for the surrogate who bear pain and faces emotional circumstances for my happiness. Good luck for you journey and looking forward to hear your success story.
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HanRIchie 22 Posts Monday March 12, 2018Registration date April 12, 2018 Last seen - Mar 31, 2018 at 09:53 AM
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Hi there! I hope you're well. Don't be so tensed about this. I had my doubts before going ahead with surrogacy. But it all ended up so well for me. It's been great. It took me out of my down time. I don't think you'll behave any differently with your child. It'll be yours! That's the best thing. It's such a blessing to get to have your own child. I wish you all the best with it! You'll love it. Got my fingers crossed for you! Good luck!
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You are incredibly brave for sharing this story with us! I really admire how you are so open and honest with your viewers - even when it is something so important and personal to you. This was so informative and even for anyone who isn't going through it - it definitely gives an insight and allows us to learn and to be respectful and mindful of other peoples circumstances. From the bottom of my heart I wish you and Wes the very best with your journey - I can't even imagine how much of a rollercoaster it must be xxxx
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Emilykingston 6 Posts Friday March 30, 2018Registration date April 6, 2018 Last seen - Apr 3, 2018 at 01:24 AM
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The moment they will hand your baby to you your fear will run away. You will never recall again if that baby was born via your womb or not. The mere sense of motherhood is so special. You will love the baby more than your life. My surrogate son is the apple of my eyes. I can never think of living without him.Please get this fear out of your mind.
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rebeccaD 13 Posts Monday March 19, 2018Registration date May 20, 2018 Last seen - Apr 4, 2018 at 04:42 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your losses and the ordeal you've been through in your fertility attempt! :( Some of us are not lucky to get pregnant swiftly and have a full-term gestation thereafter to be a mother.... but thankfully clinical assistance is there to help us. I hope you don't mind if I ask a couple of questions to understand your case better! when did you conceive last? Did you conceive naturally or it with the help of IVF? Assuming a preliminary diagnosis has already been done, what is your AMH level? 43 is certainly not old enough for either IVF or surrogacy. Moreover, if so far you've had conceived naturally only then you better consider IVF from a clinic that specialises with older couple and has a convincingly high success rate. Often the MCs could be a result of a faulty chromosome which can be identified and eliminated with the help of IVF. Availability of multiple embryo and genetic screening helps isolate the affected embryo thereby increasing your chance of success. However, if it's surrogacy you'd have to undergo... rest assured when your child is born it will be no different than the one you'd have carried in your womb. The children are like unspoilt moulds of pottery... unless you make them feel different they will not reciprocate that... so don't ponder on your fears!
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